Dear Marion,

We have not yet heard from Margrit.  Jeane Walls,
the lady who took care of my parents in Konnarock,
and whom Margrit telephones regularly has not heard
from Margrit either. (Jeane's telephone is 276-388-3117.)
A message left on the answering machine of Mary Atkinson
in Windsor (519-256-0927) has not been returned.
A message left with Jim Adams, the building manager
of Margrit's apartment building in Detroit. (313-567-4355),
has not been returned.

Thank you very much for your three letters today.
I'm much appreciative of your thoughtful suggestions
about Margrit's possible relocation to the Friends Homes.
As a physician I have often enough been witness to the
disorientation and distress, - at times to the point of
mental breakdown - experienced by old people when they
are moved from familiar surroundings. - Subsequent to my
father's death, I persuaded my mother to come with us to
Belmont. Once she was here, Margaret and I took my mother
to the office with us, to give her a chance to socialize 
with the (other) patients. She was never left alone. But
my mother was very unhappy in Belmont and stayed here only
for one week. Margrit flew back with her to Virginia;
Jeane Walls moved into the house with my mother and cared
for her until her death 33 months later. With this
experience in mind, I would strongly favor not urging
Margrit to give up her Detroit apartments until she was
satisfactorily established elsewhere. Money should not be
an issue. On the other hand, if Margrit took the initiative
to dissolve her Detroit household, I would not discourage her.
I also want you to feel unconditionally free to advise Margrit
as you deem best, without regard to what I might think or feel.

Thank you very much for your sympathy and your help.

Jochen