Peter,

Please don't feel sorry for me. I am very fortunate to have had
(and to have) Margaret. The patient acutely needing our help is
Janet. I feel for her and with her. Please let me know if you 
see anything I can do to help her.

As for the memorial service, it will take place if and when we 
are able to tranform it into a service of reconciliation with 
each other.

Jochen